Friendship and Family Problems

by **Yamagato** Sat 17 May 2008, 8:58 pm

This is for problems within a circle of friends. This is also for friend and relative problems and anxiety.

by **Kyle_Trager** Sat 17 May 2008, 11:20 pm

what can you say about "user-friendly" people?
hope you got it Very Happy

by **Yamagato** Sat 17 May 2008, 11:29 pm

Expand the sentence please.. Very Happy

by **Kyle_Trager** Sat 17 May 2008, 11:43 pm

come on... you know it!

by **Yamagato** Sun 18 May 2008, 12:09 am

there are others who don't know.. Very Happy

by LeanOnMe Sun 18 May 2008, 4:00 am

i_have_no_name wrote:what can you say about "user-friendly" people?
hope you got it

once i was teased being a user-friendly...why? because
i loved it when i was being used by the friendly people...
imagine, i gained more friends, i mean, masked friends...
hope u got it too...lol camomile (batman)

is my comprehension of user-friendly correct?lol

by **kRiSHNa** Sun 18 May 2008, 12:19 pm

my definition of user friendly is this: a person befriends u or is very friendly to u becoz she/he wants something from u. after he/she gets what he/she wants/needs from u, his/her treatment to u suddenly changes.. then it becomes a cycle..

by **the_messenger** Sun 18 May 2008, 2:32 pm

i_have_no_name wrote:what can you say about "user-friendly" people?
hope you got it

They are just being practical. These people are result - oriented individuals. Meaning they know what they want and they know how to get it, even to the extent of using other people who treat them as friends.

To be a "user-friendly" you have to be smart, to carry this act flawlessly. User -friendly people believes that working hard is not important but working smart is. These people want to make their life easy that is why they use their friends to their advantage. Point is: why would do a task if you could ask somebody to do it for you.

Bottom line kyle...avoid these individuals. They have thick face and black heart. Not worth keeping and considering them as FRIENDS!

by **Kyle_Trager** Sun 18 May 2008, 3:23 pm

thanks for the replies Very Happy

by **JonL0ver** Sun 18 May 2008, 5:03 pm

i_have_no_name wrote:what can you say about "user-friendly" people?
hope you got it

People who are user-friendly??? Then, they are open-minded and liberated. See, you can use them?

Kidding aside, I strongly believe that all of us have that attitude. It is a human nature. The only difference is the level on how we use it. If you are showy and careless about it, people will be irritated at you. You will be branded as one. But if you play it well, it will go unnoticed.

But I must admit I hate user-friendly people. I don't like that attitude. I don't want to be a victim. So, it is all up to us whether we continue the friendship or not to someone who we think a user-friendly.

by **Kyle_Trager** Sun 18 May 2008, 5:46 pm

bad for me i've always been a victim..hahaha
nameless

by **MOOrderer** Sun 18 May 2008, 9:04 pm

my online friends are more trustworthy than my friends in school.. Sad

by **MOOrderer** Sun 18 May 2008, 9:06 pm

..they always use me..and spread rumors about me Sad

sigh

by LeanOnMe Mon 19 May 2008, 5:38 am

MOOrderer wrote:..they always use me..and spread rumors about me sigh

if u r 'used' always meaning ur blessed in many ways...
u must be proud of urself, however if they spread rumors
about u lah, just keep in mind that u sing better than them..
hehehe, how is it(singing) related to ur question lah? Rolling Eyes

by LeanOnMe Mon 19 May 2008, 5:42 am

MOOrderer wrote:my online friends are more trustworthy than my friends in school..

of course we r worth of ur trust lah! and dont call ur classmates
in school ur friends lah....and dont pretend that u like them lah..
just go on with ur life with us as ur 2nd family...in heaven, ul find
peace and love...right jon? Laughing

by **MOOrderer** Mon 19 May 2008, 8:03 am

WOW. thanks

by **ahdeng88** Mon 19 May 2008, 9:53 am

MOOrderer wrote:..they always use me..and spread rumors about me sigh

I understand how u feel Moo. I think they jealous of u lah. Laughing

I think it's common in the school nowadays...spreading rumours, making use of somebody or making fun of others. You'll encounter more problems when time pass by, just treat this as a training session now. Try to ignore them if they call u names, study hard, prove to them that u can do even better than now.

U don't need many many friends. Sometimes, 1 or 2 good friends will be sufficient.

by **Yamagato** Mon 19 May 2008, 8:28 pm

LeanOnMe wrote:
MOOrderer wrote:..they always use me..and spread rumors about me sigh

if u r 'used' always meaning ur blessed in many ways...
u must be proud of urself, however if they spread rumors
about u lah, just keep in mind that u sing better than them..
hehehe, how is it(singing) related to ur question lah?

But, be sure that when they're using you, make sure that you are not abused by them. It destroys your image to others. Very Happy

by Mdm_Grasshopper_of_Congo Tue 20 May 2008, 12:30 pm

i_have_no_name wrote:what can you say about "user-friendly" people?
hope you got it

Dear no
name,

What do you mean by
"user-friendly" people in inverted coma? You mean there are other meaning
besides user-friendly? Kids nowadays, really have something wrong in their big
fat brains of yours.

But through Madamme
understanding, you should be proud when people using you friendly-ly, that shows
that you have friends who like to make use of you in a friendly way, be
thankful. Imagine if your friends didnt make use of you, you will be
"Uselessly-friend". In other words you will be as useless as a log.

Yours
fruitily

Mdm
Grasshopper

by Mdm_Grasshopper_of_Congo Tue 20 May 2008, 12:34 pm

i_have_no_name wrote:what can you say about "user-friendly" people?
hope you got it

Dear no name,

What do you mean by "user-friendly" people in inverted coma? You mean there are other meaning besides user-friendly? Kids nowadays, really have something wrong in their big fat brains of yours.

But through Madamme understanding, you should be proud when people using you friendly-ly, that shows that you have friends who like to make use of you in a friendly way, be thankful. Imagine if your friends didnt make use of you, you will be "Uselessly-nofriend". In other words you will be as useless as a log.

Yours fruitily
Mdm Grasshopper

by Mdm_Grasshopper_of_Congo Tue 20 May 2008, 12:39 pm

MOOrderer wrote:my online friends are more trustworthy than my friends in school..

Dear Moorderer.

I dont seem to understand this statement of yours? Really, Madamme really dont understand kids nowadays whether they are not smart enough or way too smart to understand. You didnt explain what your schoolmates have done to you so far and you just jump into conclusion that they are not trustworthy?

Or is it do you mean it in your next post you written that they always use you and spread rumors about you? Girl you yourself have a problem, next time making it one sentense in one shot. You are confusing good old Madamme.

You must be proud that at least you do not need some paparazzi to spread rumors about you, you have your friends to do it for you. For the thing about make use of you, that is normal my dear girl. You dont want to be called useless person dont you.

Did you know that friends are like leaves, you can find it everywhere even the dead useless one? Maybe all your schoolmates are yellow leaves. So the moral of the story, grow trees somewhere else and make new leaves.

Wth love
Madamme Grasshopper

by **Alan_Ariel** Tue 20 May 2008, 9:06 pm

hmm, sometimes you can't really trust on your best friend.. because my best friend backstabbed me before.. it really hurts.. imagine, we were best friend since 10.. Sad

but i still consider him as my best friend now.. i learn that i can't trust no one except myself..

by LeanOnMe Wed 21 May 2008, 1:03 am

Alan_Ariel wrote:hmm, sometimes you can't really trust on your best friend.. because my best friend backstabbed me before.. it really hurts.. imagine, we were best friend since 10.. but i still consider him as my best friend now.. i learn that i can't trust no one except myself..

i had once this so-called bestfriend too, but she did things that badly hurt me..
and yet she is now trying to get back my trust but its too late for her..she cannot
bring back the trust she ruined...but she's still here, however unlike before,
i never share things about my whereabouts...i talk to her but only the shallow
and nonsense things...why im being too emotional here lah? by the way, throw
her bread if he throws u stone, but bread with liver spread mixed with ground
cockroaches and bugs..sounds delicious, aint it?

by LeanOnMe Wed 21 May 2008, 1:04 am

*her-him

by **sha** Wed 21 May 2008, 1:05 pm

LeanOnMe wrote:
Alan_Ariel wrote:hmm, sometimes you can't really trust on your best friend.. because my best friend backstabbed me before.. it really hurts.. imagine, we were best friend since 10.. but i still consider him as my best friend now.. i learn that i can't trust no one except myself..

i had once this so-called bestfriend too, but she did things that badly hurt me..
and yet she is now trying to get back my trust but its too late for her..she cannot
bring back the trust she ruined...but she's still here, however unlike before,
i never share things about my whereabouts...i talk to her but only the shallow
and nonsense things...why im being too emotional here lah? by the way, throw
her bread if he throws u stone, but bread with liver spread mixed with ground
cockroaches and bugs..sounds delicious, aint it?

wahaha....good luck on how to prepare that bread with liver spread with ground cockraches & bugs....throw raw egg instead.....that will be too much fun...can i join....haha

by **MOOrderer** Thu 22 May 2008, 1:57 am

Alan_Ariel wrote:hmm, sometimes you can't really trust on your best friend.. because my best friend backstabbed me before.. it really hurts.. imagine, we were best friend since 10.. but i still consider him as my best friend now.. i learn that i can't trust no one except myself..

i had the same experience before..she's my BFF since 8..we were classmates before..on my last year in that school she backstabbed me also..we even graduated mad at each other..after that year we go to different schools and haven't talked for months.. and just this may..we talked..and she apologized and made a blog entry for meeee Very Happy

maybe she realized that she did something wrong. i miss my BFF.

by **MOOrderer** Thu 22 May 2008, 1:59 am

LeanOnMe wrote:
Alan_Ariel wrote:hmm, sometimes you can't really trust on your best friend.. because my best friend backstabbed me before.. it really hurts.. imagine, we were best friend since 10.. but i still consider him as my best friend now.. i learn that i can't trust no one except myself..

i had once this so-called bestfriend too, but she did things that badly hurt me..
and yet she is now trying to get back my trust but its too late for her..she cannot
bring back the trust she ruined...but she's still here, however unlike before,
i never share things about my whereabouts...i talk to her but only the shallow
and nonsense things...why im being too emotional here lah? by the way, throw
her bread if he throws u stone, but bread with liver spread mixed with ground
cockroaches and bugs..sounds delicious, aint it?

you made me laugh Razz

by **ahdeng88** Thu 22 May 2008, 12:54 pm

Alan_Ariel wrote:hmm, sometimes you can't really trust on your best friend.. because my best friend backstabbed me before.. it really hurts.. imagine, we were best friend since 10.. but i still consider him as my best friend now.. i learn that i can't trust no one except myself..

Ouch... it true that it hurts you a lot if backstabbed by a good friend. If u still consider him as your best friend now, u got to learn to forgive him., and I know it will be hard, cos you're still remember the incident it. It's the matter of time. Did he/she apologized to you so far?

Do you know what's the reason behind that?

1. Is it that he/she's trying to help you, (ie you r tryg to play a dangerous plank or trick on another friend, she/he finds not right, so report to teacher) Just an example. THen he/she actually meant well to you.

2. If he/she backstabbed u is for his/her own good, then you can prepare to delete this friend from your friendlist. He's not worth to be your friend or anybody's friend.

But it's good to learn to protect yourself, you can treat this as a 'painful' lesson, so that you can be 'smarter' next time to choose a friend.

by **Alan_Ariel** Fri 23 May 2008, 2:19 pm

thanks for the advice, ahdeng..

by **MOOrderer** Sun 25 May 2008, 9:56 am

another prob..

i have 2 friends..let's name them "Amy" and "Jane"..so I'm closer to Jane..cuz i find Amy a bit irritating cuz she is always shouts..one time Jane found out that Amy said something to Jane that causes Jane and another classmate of ours to fight..until Jane found out that what Amy said was just a rumor..from that day on,Jane started cursing Amy..say bad words to her..tell my other classmates that she is not worthy to be anyone's friend..i know Amy was wrong in spreading rumors..but Jane was wrong in cursing too..i don't like to take sides.. they are both wrong..Jane is a sensitive girl..i'm afraid that if i tell her that she is wrong,she wont talk to me anymore..and curse me also..helP!!!

by **Alan_Ariel** Sun 25 May 2008, 10:38 am

MOOrderer wrote:another prob..

i have 2 friends..let's name them "Amy" and "Jane"..so I'm closer to Jane..cuz i find Amy a bit irritating cuz she is always shouts..one time Jane found out that Amy said something to Jane that causes Jane and another classmate of ours to fight..until Jane found out that what Amy said was just a rumor..from that day on,Jane started cursing Amy..say bad words to her..tell my other classmates that she is not worthy to be anyone's friend..i know Amy was wrong in spreading rumors..but Jane was wrong in cursing too..i don't like to take sides.. they are both wrong..Jane is a sensitive girl..i'm afraid that if i tell her that she is wrong,she wont talk to me anymore..and curse me also..helP!!!

if i were you, i just tell Jane the truth.. you shouldn't be afraid of telling your friend the truth.. don't worry about her reaction after you tell her.. just tell her first.. if she won't talk to you or curse you, then she's not your real friend.. someday, she will realize that she's wrong..

but this is just an opinion of mine.. you don't have to follow if you don't want to.. Wink

by **MOOrderer** Mon 26 May 2008, 10:13 am

what if after she realize she was wrong and i gave her the chance to be friends again with me, and then she did the same again..should i give her again a chance?or should i stop talking to her?

by **Alan_Ariel** Mon 26 May 2008, 10:20 am

well, in that case.. you should give her the chance like you did before.. people always say, friends forgive and forget.. and that's what you should do too.. if you stop talking to her, she will think that you don't want to be friends with her anymore.. then she will start cursing you like she did before.. so, its no use if you just sit there, not talking to her and watch her talking behind your back.. you understand me? don't make enemies but make friends.. Wink

by **MOOrderer** Mon 26 May 2008, 10:22 am

Alan_Ariel wrote:well, in that case.. you should give her the chance like you did before.. people always say, friends forgive and forget.. and that's what you should do too.. if you stop talking to her, she will think that you don't want to be friends with her anymore.. then she will start cursing you like she did before.. so, its no use if you just sit there, not talking to her and watch her talking behind your back.. you understand me? don't make enemies but make friends..

so much!!!! let's see if this will work.. i'll meet her on June..*fingers crossed*

by Mdm_Grasshopper_of_Congo Mon 26 May 2008, 1:05 pm

MOOrderer wrote:another prob..

i have 2 friends..let's name
them "Amy" and "Jane"..so I'm closer to Jane..cuz i find Amy a bit
irritating cuz she is always shouts..one time Jane found out that Amy
said something to Jane that causes Jane and another classmate of ours
to fight..until Jane found out that what Amy said was just a
rumor..from that day on,Jane started cursing Amy..say bad words to
her..tell my other classmates that she is not worthy to be anyone's
friend..i know Amy was wrong in spreading rumors..but Jane was wrong in
cursing too..i don't like to take sides.. they are both wrong..Jane is
a sensitive girl..i'm afraid that if i tell her that she is wrong,she
wont talk to me anymore..and curse me also..helP!!!

Hello Honey,

After reading your problem, Madamme cant help but to ask, what is the issue here?

OK both are your friends, but you dont like Amy because she always shouting, why is she your friend in a first place?

Then you are closer to Jane, but dont dare to tell Jane off because she
is sensitve and you are afraid that she will curse you ALSO and wont
talk to you anymore. The question is, what makes you choose Jane over
Amy when their attitude almost the same?

But Moo honey, if you are not so close to Amy, wouldnt it be easier to
tell Amy off at the same time hinting at Jane? Just like throwing 1
pail of water on 2 cats (whatever that means)

It that wont work, it is good to let them be. It will be better if you
get ready a wrestling ring to let them have cat fight of their own.

Your love
Madamme Grasshopper

by LeanOnMe Mon 26 May 2008, 4:15 pm

MOOrderer wrote:another prob..

i have 2 friends..let's name them "Amy" and "Jane"..so I'm closer to Jane..cuz i find Amy a bit irritating cuz she is always shouts..one time Jane found out that Amy said something to Jane that causes Jane and another classmate of ours to fight..until Jane found out that what Amy said was just a rumor..from that day on,Jane started cursing Amy..say bad words to her..tell my other classmates that she is not worthy to be anyone's friend..i know Amy was wrong in spreading rumors..but Jane was wrong in cursing too..i don't like to take sides.. they are both wrong..Jane is a sensitive girl..i'm afraid that if i tell her that she is wrong,she wont talk to me anymore..and curse me also..helP!!!

hi moor...good to know that you are in a normal state condition of the mind/consciousness (ang haba ata scratch

)..it doesnt mean that your friends are
not and unconscious, which im sure they are lol!

it is coz u know what is right and wrong and maybe they have this problem attitude...your minds constitute reasons; reasons of emotions-why they should hate you or get mad at you at one end and ur emotion of fear...the cause and effect, act and react...its
normal moo among friends, the one who remains and understands u must be your true friend...however, it says that the same feather flock together..so too bad of u, just remove ur feathers off u... study

by **Kyle_Trager** Wed 28 May 2008, 4:04 pm

ohhhhhhhhhh =D

by **MOOrderer** Wed 28 May 2008, 4:07 pm

LeanOnMe wrote:
MOOrderer wrote:another prob..

i have 2 friends..let's name them "Amy" and "Jane"..so I'm closer to Jane..cuz i find Amy a bit irritating cuz she is always shouts..one time Jane found out that Amy said something to Jane that causes Jane and another classmate of ours to fight..until Jane found out that what Amy said was just a rumor..from that day on,Jane started cursing Amy..say bad words to her..tell my other classmates that she is not worthy to be anyone's friend..i know Amy was wrong in spreading rumors..but Jane was wrong in cursing too..i don't like to take sides.. they are both wrong..Jane is a sensitive girl..i'm afraid that if i tell her that she is wrong,she wont talk to me anymore..and curse me also..helP!!!

hi moor...good to know that you are in a normal state condition of the mind/consciousness (ang haba ata )..it doesnt mean that your friends are
not and unconscious, which im sure they are it is coz u know what is right and wrong and maybe they have this problem attitude...your minds constitute reasons; reasons of emotions-why they should hate you or get mad at you at one end and ur emotion of fear...the cause and effect, act and react...its
normal moo among friends, the one who remains and understands u must be your true friend...however, it says that the same feather flock together..so too bad of u, just remove ur feathers off u...

:-3:thank you..this helps me a lot..you're the best LeanOnMe... hola1

by LeanOnMe Wed 28 May 2008, 4:45 pm

am i moo???im absolutely touched Sad

i wanna cry.... alan_ariel

lol

by **MOOrderer** Wed 28 May 2008, 4:46 pm

LeanOnMe wrote:am i moo???im absolutely touched
i wanna cry.... lol

yes really.. 8)

by LeanOnMe Wed 28 May 2008, 4:48 pm

Kyle_Trager wrote:ohhhhhhhhhh =D

are you ok kyle???u can lean on me... Laughing

by **Alan_Ariel** Thu 29 May 2008, 11:24 am

okay, here's my problem..

Last year, i went on a trip to Singapore with my family for four days for Christmas well. She wants to meet me there and take me shopping
but my mom's familiar with that country and she hopes we can just be
together as a family. I also know that she wouldn't allow me to go out
with any friends in a foreign country. I've only gotten to be close with her this last year but I know she gets mad at me often for not having things the way she wanted. So in this situation, am I wrong or what should I do with her?

by **Alan_Ariel** Thu 29 May 2008, 11:26 am

Alan_Ariel wrote:okay, here's my problem..

Last year, i went on a trip to Singapore with my family for four days for Christmas well. She wants to meet me there and take me shopping
but my mom's familiar with that country and she hopes we can just be
together as a family. I also know that she wouldn't allow me to go out
with any friends in a foreign country. I've only gotten to be close with her this last year but I know she gets mad at me often for not having things the way she wanted. So in this situation, am I wrong or what should I do with her?

oops, there is some mistakes.. stick

okay,i repost my problem..

by **Alan_Ariel** Thu 29 May 2008, 11:26 am

Last year, i went on a trip to Singapore with my family for four days (for Christmas), and my best friend is too. She's from Singapore so she knows the place well. She wants to meet me there and take me shopping
but my mom's familiar with that country and she hopes we can just be
together as a family. I also know that she wouldn't allow me to go out
with any friends in a foreign country. So, I told my friend that I can't make it and I apologized but she was really mean to me and my mom.
I've only gotten to be close with her this last year but I know she
gets mad at me often for not having things the way she wanted. So in this situation, am I wrong or what should I do with her?

by **alenn_wafu** Thu 29 May 2008, 11:33 am

It is better with your family bro Alan, they are more important than a friend that you only know about a year.

by **MOOrderer** Thu 29 May 2008, 11:57 am

if she is really your friend,she will understand and take it easily. i adore your mother! cheers

by LeanOnMe Fri 30 May 2008, 5:12 am

Alan_Ariel wrote:
Last year, i went on a trip to Singapore with my family for four days (for Christmas), and my best friend is too. She's from Singapore so she knows the place well. She wants to meet me there and take me shopping
but my mom's familiar with that country and she hopes we can just be
together as a family. I also know that she wouldn't allow me to go out
with any friends in a foreign country. So, I told my friend that I can't make it and I apologized but she was really mean to me and my mom.
I've only gotten to be close with her this last year but I know she
gets mad at me often for not having things the way she wanted. So in this situation, am I wrong or what should I do with her?

who was being mean to whom???did u mean your
best friend? and not just on u but also with ur mom?
and who says she has to dictate your life? r u sure
she is just a best friend or u r more than friends?
shes acting like a wife, lah! ur mom hoped nothin
but to gather as a family that xmas season...maybe
shes already a part of the family and yet u didnt
inform them lah...kidding aside, now u know her
true colors, is that what uve wanted from a friend?
maybe ur mom is over protective of u, but remember
moms know best (....what they think is best for their
sons)...ul realized it urself when ul become one someday...
i mean, not as a mom but as a parent.... scratch

by **Alan_Ariel** Fri 30 May 2008, 7:29 am

LeanOnMe, she's my best friend lah.. i've met her since i was little but only got close to her last year..

by **iQlima_89** Sat 31 May 2008, 2:02 pm

it is easy to build a friendship...

n

it is easy to break up the friendship..

-------------------------------------------

agree?

by **Alan_Ariel** Sat 31 May 2008, 2:54 pm

easy to break a friendship but hard to build back.. Very Happy

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